First date and What to talk about

by admin on November 11, 2009

Conversation on your first date

Conversation on your first date

Dating advice for woman

Talking about yourself, just say something nice that you have had in life, but not associated with your former fans. You’ve got to put yourself in the most favorable light. Only talks good about themselves and their lives. Tell me some fun and funny incidents that happened to you (but they should not be your ex and your love affairs). Tell him about his hobbies, hobbies (cars, sports, flowers, animals, collections, needlework, etc.). Tell him in a fun form of their abilities, achievements and successes, the positive features of his character. Perhaps you can find common interests …
In general, in your conversation should only be positive! No problem. Avoid discussing any issues, both his and other people (relatives, colleagues, subordinates or students). Not a word about their shortcomings. In the early dating, avoid candor, there is no talk about their dreams and hopes, how many children you would like to have. This is a topic for discussion only with good friends, relatives and beloved man, whom you have long been familiar. Now it is only alienate him. In addition, your conversation should be only two actors – you and he! And no one else! No gossip! No stories about the lives of others. No details of the lives of friends or relatives with whom he is not yet known.
Also avoid talking about that is not interesting and common to both of you. Finally, a word about their feelings and experiences! For men of feeling – this is terra incognita, in this area men absolute ignoramuses, and he will feel like a complete idiot. But most importantly, is the minimum of information about yourself! Let him speak and he confessed.

The first meeting should not last long, for 2-3 hours and that you should finish it, but not him! What is the limit? Very simple: you must feel that he was still hungry from communicating with you, he wants to communicate more … He should remain interested in continuing the conversation to get to know you, he should not be satisfied with your company.
The best way to interrupt a meeting at the peak of your rendezvous, when your communication with full swing and still so much I want to say to each other. Interrupting a conversation so he will need to meet again with you, to at least finish the conversation. And most importantly, the end of a meeting he should exactly know whether you want to continue a relationship or not.
There should be no understatement and obnadezhivaniya. If you want to continue the relationship, please tell him about it, for example, expressed his gratitude for a wonderful evening, tell me what you liked to talk to him that you would gladly went with him somewhere else. If you want to make this meeting was the last one, then tell me that you were glad to meet and say goodbye, wished him all the best.
During the meeting in his story about their hobbies and tastes as if by accident, tell him where would you like to go that you do love to visit and where to spend time. Well, if it will be the place that did not require him great material costs. The man – a hunter and if you want long-term relationship, then it should you win, not buy! Generally in the beginning of a relationship needs to be done so that he spent on you one time, not money.
You need a man if not for life, then at least for a long time? Then, since familiarity should observe these commandments.

You are allowed to first take the initiative only giving zazyvnye signals through gestures, flirting with him. If you’re sitting in a cafe, it would be a mistake, if you first speak to him. The conversation will just let him! That you protect yourself from those men who are not looking for dating, and have been here for some other reason. If he really wants to meet you, it will first take the initiative. If he sits for a long time and you’re convinced that he is clearly trying to look shy and awkward dating, then the maximum you can provoke conversation.

Remember that attitude, first, fragile as a crystal vase, and, secondly, they can not fix anything! Therefore we must be careful to any man with whom you begin acquaintance, and build from the beginning just such a relationship, what you need it! Because then anything can not alter! Forget how you started with the same men, otherwise everything will be like last time …

Every new acquaintance start anew, owns some successful techniques for you, worked them! And from the start take the lead, allowing you to build such a relationship the most, what you need most, and to influence their development and be an active participant in the development of relations, rather than a passive observer. So the initiative in the relationship belongs to you! In any case, at each interview try to relax and have fun, just have a good time regardless of how the will to develop relations with new friends and whether they will do.

Let him speak in the main it! Remember that word – silver, silence – gold. If you give a man the opportunity to speak, he would very soon feel affection for you. So be grateful listener. Thus you, on the one hand, can not call it stimulation of women’s incessant chatter, and, on the other hand, give him an opportunity to show our best side. Will try to ask him about himself, beloved, what his hobbies and friends, as he lives.

Let him speak more than he let it be in the spotlight. Particularly encouraged to talk about their hobbies and the fact that he knows very well about his work, a hobby, but not about his personal life and even less about women. Let it be quite simple earthly things, but not fantastic feats of Hercules or the fictitious adventures of Odysseus. If you suspect that he begins to fantasize, to change the subject because the next time he may forget, get confused and have to feel uncomfortable. And be careful, concerned and appreciative listener. Look him straight in the eye. Let him finish the thought, do not interrupt me! Men, unlike women, must bring the idea to the end otherwise it will lose it and be annoyed.

If there was a pause, ask what else he likes, what else is keen that more interesting to him. Talk about travel, maybe he was somewhere or something wants to see. But do not ask too many questions. Try to ask such questions, to which he can give a detailed answer short, 40 minutes, in general, be able to speak, and not simply answer “yes” or “no.” And helped him in this. He worries no less than you, he is not sure of himself and wants to impress. So if you want to continue the relationship, there must be precise and clear to him that he made it very impressed!

In the process of communication words and his whole appearance indicated that he’ll like it! We must learn to listen and then you will know everything about him that you need and desire to be able to make him love me. However, the need to actively listen, join with him in dialogue. Interested in the minutest detail, specify the detail of his story, in general, directed the conversation to you in the right direction. Everything he says about his tastes, that he likes perceived absolutely seriously and remember! And remember that no accounting for tastes! In the process of communication if you learn to listen, you know that it attracts and repels that, in general, his presentation of the ideal and the fact that it is important in life. And in accordance with the need to slightly modify their behavior, according to his ideals that he saw in you the woman of his dreams. And also in further conversation with him must be the most stressed points, which for him is particularly important, thus this community attitudes, life values and priorities have to be brought together.

However, avoid anything that is connected with its material prosperity and finances, his living conditions, avoid details of his personal life. Listen to his responses to your questions, as he openly and easily begins to respond. If he refuses, we must quickly begin to discuss something else, otherwise excessive interest in his personal life, it can scare.

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